Dennise Rathbone – Please Call: 07765 542346
Often, we enter therapy with a vague idea that “If I could just get rid of this bit of myself, or change that part of another” then everything would be just fine. However, the paradox here is that the more we can accept the “less loved” aspects of ourselves, the parts we perhaps deem to be “bad” or “shameful”, the more this allows these aspects to transform. This enables us to meet the world with authenticity and means that we expend less energy on adaptive strategies in order to maintain the mask we present to the outer world; a strategy we will have developed as children, which we may not even be aware of, which served its purpose then, but may now be a hindrance to us living full and satisfying lives.
I firmly believe that curiosity and self-compassion are key. This allows us to turn, with an open curiosity, towards the aspects of ourselves or another, which we might otherwise judge or turn away from. Therapy isn’t just about resolving “problems” in our lives, it’s also very much about personal growth and development; exploring our “blind spots” with a trusted other. We can’t see our own blind spots by virtue of that very reason – they are our blind spots!
The West African Dagara people say that no one comes into this world for no reason. We each come here carrying a gift and a purpose. We need to discover what that gift is, what is our purpose.
What’s the difference between Counselling and Psychotherapy?
People may be drawn to counselling to resolve a specific issue they are struggling with, or to help them overcome a distressing life event, and tends to be shorter term, until the client has regained their sense of wellbeing. However, this exploration can open up into how current problems may be reflecting unresolved childhood issues, which is where counselling and psychotherapy usefully overlap. Psychotherapy can allow for a deeper exploration over an extended period of time, enabling the client to really get to know themselves better.
Instead of focussing in on individual problems, psychotherapy considers patterns of behaviour, recurrent feelings and strategies we may have developed as children in order to manage or navigate our environment. This asks for an openness to exploring the past and its impact upon the present. The aim of psychotherapy is to heal the underlying issues which fuel ongoing struggles. Psychotherapists aim to help their clients resolve past experiences, helping them lay the foundations for a satisfying future.
In describing “talking therapies”, the terms counselling and psychotherapy are frequently used interchangeably and The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) doesn’t distinguish between them. However, The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) acknowledges that psychotherapy training tends to be longer and students are required to undertake extensive personal therapy as a key aspect of their training. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that one is better than the other.
While counselling might have you asking, “What can I do and change to feel better?”, psychotherapy might also find you exploring, “Who am I?” and “How did I become this person?” (in the wider context of my family history) and “Who do I really want to be, deep down?”
Fundamentally, it’s the relationship which heals, or perhaps a new experience in relationship. Therefore, it is important that you find a therapist you feel comfortable working with, with whom you can build a relationship of trust.
What is Transpersonal Psychotherapy?
Transpersonal literally means ‘beyond the personal’ and allows space within the therapy to explore the spiritual side of human experience, in whatever way that may hold meaning for the client. This enables us to see that we are part of something greater than ourselves, and within that wider context we may loosen the grip of the fundamentally human issues that we all struggle with, to find greater meaning in our lives.
I’m an Integrative Psychotherapist and Counsellor, which basically means that I weave different approaches into my practice, such as working with creative materials, dreams or the sand tray. I believe that therapy is a collaborative process, and that at their core my clients’ inner-wisdom knows what is best for them. This has simply been obscured or constrained by their experiences, or burdens accrued during the course of their lives. Together we can explore, with a non-judgemental open curiosity, what these restrictions or self-limiting beliefs may be and how they operate, enabling more freedom of choice, allowing you to live life more fully.
I’m a UKCP (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy) registered psychotherapist and counsellor and have experience in helping clients who have experienced difficulties with trauma (whether stemming from events or relationships), stress, low self-worth, panic attacks, anxiety, relationship issues, bereavement, sexual abuse, depression and addiction.
My counselling practice in Ashurst Wood is within easy reach of Forest Row, East Grinstead, Hartfield, Lingfield and Crawley Down and also is accessible for individuals with disabilities.
I hold a Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy from the Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (CCPE) in London. This Integrative and Transpersonal training is accredited by both UKCP and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), the two main bodies responsible for setting the standards for psychotherapy and counselling training and practice across the UK.
I am registered with The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP). I have been fully checked by the Disclosure and Barring Service (formerly Criminal Records Bureau), receive regular clinical supervision with a qualified and accredited supervisor and hold professional indemnity insurance.
I am also a Massage in Schools instructor (MISP); a peer-to-peer massage programme designed to promote class cohesion and reduce bullying in schools. For a myriad of reasons, children nowadays too often arrive at school stressed, which in this “fight or flight state” counters their ability to be open to learning. This programme enables them to feel safe in their bodies, indirectly teaches empathy and consideration for others and can create a calmer atmosphere in class, allowing the teacher to get on with their task of teaching!
I have spent the past four years working at Help Counselling on the Portobello Road in London, a service which provides affordable short and long-term counselling. I have experience in running workshops for adults on the topic of “Balancing the Inner-Critic with Self-Compassion”. Additionally, I helped to run a programme at the Koorana Centre in Ardingly for teens entitled “Discover Yourself”; a fun and inspirational day which helps teens move beyond stress and anxiety and cope better with exams. As part of this workshop we explored the individual patterns of how stress plays out in our bodies and different ways in which we can restore balance, to enable us to work effectively and come up with creative solutions to our challenges.
£55.00 for a 50 minute session. Concessions available for people on low-income and trainee counsellors. There is no charge for this initial telephone conversation, should you require any further information before making your decision.
Our initial session would consist of an assessment; an invaluable opportunity to gather information and for you to experience whether you feel that you would be comfortable working together.
“Thank you so much for your amazing support ….. I am so grateful to have been able to share this journey with you. You have given me a safe place to explore so many issues that I needed to look at – and you did this with patience, wisdom, humour and without making me feel judged. You are such a gifted counsellor and therapist.” R.A.